Enough is enough.
Relationships aren’t always easy. According to clinical psychologist, Lisa Blum, the relationships that last the longest and are most enduring are the ones that take a lot of work.
The idea of a perfect relationship can cause damage to your relationship. It gets in the way. We want the perfect life and we do things just to keep the peace in the relationship. We put up with things we shouldn’t and lose sight of the end goal. A happy life doesn’t always mean a perfect life.
Relationships are complicated and messy at times. Be mindful of what you are willing to accept and not accept in them.
1. Don’t accept behaviors that damage your trust.
Trust is extremely important in a relationship. It is the foundation that your relationship is built on. When you don’t trust your partner, the relationship is weakened.
When someone breaks your trust, it is their fault, not yours. Don’t blame yourself for trusting them in the first place. Blame them for breaking your trust. The only way to learn whether or not to trust someone is to learn by experience.
2. Don’t accept negative energy.
A relationship should be a positive part of your life. You should feel uplifted and inspired. You shouldn’t feel drained or tired when seeing your partner. Don’t accept the negative energy if they bring it.
It is normal to have rough patches. There are sometimes it is normal to have negative energy. But don’t make it a common practice to put up with it. If you hit a point where you are having more negative interactions than positive, you should evaluate your relationship. You don’t want to be with someone you want to avoid on a regular basis.
3. Don’t accept laziness.
You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship. You have to make time for yourself and your health. There are always excuses after excuses as to why you can’t make it to the gym or get in a quick walk. But when you do that, you feel sluggish and lazy for the rest of the day.
You don’t want that to be in your relationship. A good way to get it in is to workout with your partner. It can bond you together as well as help you both work on yourselves. You will get stronger as individuals and as a couple.
4. Don’t compete.
If you both start working out together, you might notice they are lifting more weight than you or losing more weight than you. Don’t get competitive. You will then keep wanting to one-up them and do better than them. You lose focus of the goal. Stay supportive and be happy that they are reaching their goals.
Keep pushing yourself, but not to beat them. Push yourself to be a better person and to reach your own goals. Everyone is different. Cheer each other on, don’t compete with them.
5. Don’t change yourself to be around your partner.
If you feel like you need to be a different person around your partner, this is a red flag. It can be exhausting to pretend to be someone you are not. This means some part of you feels like they won’t love you if you are yourself. This is not a good thing to have in a relationship.
Did they tell you they didn’t like that part of you or do they just make you feel that way? If you are not feeling accepted, your relationship won’t last. You need to feel comfortable with yourself.
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